Get Him To Propose: Dropping Hints

You might be waiting for him to propose, but unless it's on his mind, you might be waiting for a very long time. Some men, not all, are very comfortable with the status quo and like to keep things the way they are for as long as possible. Some doesn't like change in their lives, and marriage is a big change. Some are comfortable living with you or dating you but are confirmed bachelors - they just haven't told you that yet. If you knew, you wouldn't stay would you? And some men are buried so deeply in their careers and their current lifestyle that they can't see a future outside of that reality.

The first step is to get a feel for his view on marriage. Start by understanding how his parent’s marriage was or is. Many people believe that their marriage will mimic their parent’s marriage. If his parent’s marriage was difficult and angry he may not be willing to jump headlong in any marriage - with you or anyone else. If you're invited to a wedding it's a perfect time to talk about marriage in the abstract. If there are no weddings on your horizon, then rent a movie like "The Wedding Planner" and hear his views throughout the movie and afterward.

Some men don't care one way or the other about getting married. They may believe that when the time is right, the opportunity will present itself. They may be fine about not getting married, but fine with it as well. When you can ascertain his viewpoint, you have a better idea of what kind of hints you may or may not drop in order to plant the idea in his head.

Don't talk about marriage constantly - even when it's about someone else's marriage. Bringing it up every 3 months is often enough. He hears you. He may not acknowledge that he heard - but he did hear exactly what you said. Instead a well-placed comment during a movie or after a double date will stick in his mind.

Don't focus on marriage. Instead, focus on your relationship together. Marriage is a beautiful union between two people, but those people had better get along really well before they're married to weather the challenges after they are married. Focus on developing the best relationship between the two of you and drop the occasional hint. He'll pick it up. If it's been a year since you first started dropping hints, you can propose an honest and frank discussion about how he sees his future going. If you aren't in it, then it's time to think about investing in yourself again.

Never underestimate the time you spend with another person. Although it may not culminate in marriage, the way that you would have wished, you have learned a lot about developing a good relationship and will be all the better for it in your next one.

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