Let's face it, sometimes we are dating a guy and we just want OUT. Maybe they're a nice guy and we'd rather let them think it was their idea to turn tail and run. After all, knowing exactly why he leaves is a great ego boost. When you can make the situation work out just the way YOU want, it goes a long way toward learning how to do this again and again. And, by learning how you do get dumped, then you are also learning what NOT to say if you don't want to send him running back to his old life.
June was attending college in Chicago. She was from a small mid-western town where her parents attended church people they had known for over 30 years. One good friend of the family had a nephew who lived in Chicago and was single. One thing led to another and they thought a fix up would be a good idea.
After one date June knew that there was nothing there and would never be. He was nice enough, but they were in two different places in their life. He was an established jeweler and she was a Senior in college. One the second date he took her to a beautiful restaurant with entertainment. They enjoyed a nice evening of good conversation. It was on the ride home that she casually brought up his uncle and her mother. In an off handed manner she mentioned that they were already talking about grandchildren.
It was the only nudge he needed not to call her - every again!
This is just one of the things you can say to get dumped if you want and better not say if you don't want to.
Looking for more suggestions? Men love alone time. Time they can spend either by themselves or with other guys who don't say anything the whole evening. If you don't respect that time you'll soon find him running for cover. This takes a bit longer than a comment during a date, but it is just as effective.
Do you want children or are looking for a marriage relationship? Bringing these comments up before the 3rd date is pretty much a guarantee that he won't call you back. This doesn't mean that he doesn't want to get married or have children, eventually. But at the moment he doesn't know you well enough to have this conversation.
If you've known him a bit longer you can tell him that your parents are moving in with you or that you are moving back home to live with your parents. And, while you're at it, throw in that they just got out of jail and need to have someone living with them as a condition of their parole. If your parents are dead, use your ex. Tell him that your ex is getting out of jail next week and wants to get back together.
And the last, guaranteed to send him running, comment you can make is to issue an ultimatum. If he doesn't ______ then you will leave. Make the ultimatum something he can't fulfill no matter how much he wants to please you. A ring on your finger, parents must be living in the same city, parents must be alive, etc. You get the picture.
More often you'll want to know what not to say so you don't get dumped. But, these little gems work both ways - say them if you are trying to get out of something and don't if you want him to stick around longer than the next 30 minutes.
Originally published here: Relationship Deal Breaker: What To Say To Get Dumped
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